Someone sent me a write up this morning on how a father's influence can go to the fourth generation after him. He sighted an example of Whitney Houston’s parents; Emily and John Houston who divorced when she was in kindergarten. Together with her lover, Bobby Brown, Whitney smoked crack in the presence of their 5-year-old daughter, Bobbi Kristina. At 22, Bobbi died of drug abuse…her mother Whitney died at 48 on similar grounds. Great careers and more importantly, great lives lost due to parenting default.
The truth is that there isn't much you can do about your ancestors but there is something that you can do about your descendants. To be in your children’s memory tomorrow, you have to be in their lives’ today. Having children doesn’t make you a parent, Raising them does and it takes skill.
There are many of us who were raised up in unstable families. As much as we don’t want to pass it on to our children, If we do nothing about it, we will be doing just that.
We can choose to become more emotionally intelligent, control our emotions, shield our children from our disputes as adults, and this is not done by wishing and praying, it's a skill. To a large extent, a child is a product of his/her early relationships.
It starts with you becoming emotionally intelligent to raise an emotionally stable child.
Are you thinking about this? in my upcoming book, Connect to Correct I shared insights on how you can begin to take charge of your emotions and this skill that will help you change the story of your descendants;
If you do nothing you will be like the parents we point accusing fingers at.
Let's Start Connecting and stop Commanding
©Wendy Ologe
Parent Coach
Parent Coach
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