DEAL WITH YOUR EMOTIONS TO DEAL WITH YOUR CHILD'S MISBEHAVIOUR

Few days ago, my 8 year old son missed  an instruction I gave him.

I was upset about it because the instruction was time bound. 

What did I do? 

I decided to enquire why he didn't carry out the instructions, and this conversation took place between us.

(Note: This conversation happened with a calm and an open mind even thou I was upset.)

Me: Ayo did you do what I asked you to do?
 
Ayo: No mummy. Did you ask me to do anything?

Me: Yes , I am sure you didn't  hear me 🤔

Ayo: I didn't  hear you mum, Sorry.

Me: That's OK (even thou at this point I felt like saying  you just didn't  listen because  you were playing 😂 but I didn't)

Note: I didn't need to condemn him for not listening,  all I did was find out why first.

For you to deal with any misbehaviour effectively  you must first understand why your child  misbehaved , you owe that to your child.

Few minutes  later, another apportunity came to carry out the same instruction.

Ayo: oh mum let me quickly  go and do this for you  now. (afterwards) He comes back to me held me and said,  "I am so sorry mum,  next time I will ensure I listen attentively when your are instructing me".

I tell you those words melted me. I got so emotional,  and I just knew for the umpteenth  time that connecting to Correct is better than commanding to correct your child.

Dear parents,

Deal with you emotions, your Child is not the reason why you yell!
You are the reason!
You are also the solution!
Stop making excuses!.......start looking for tools to help you become  parent in the 21st century. Parenting in this century is very tough and requires a lot of skills, tools and knowledge, Please don't leave it to  chance.

In my latest book,  I shared tools that helped me get to this point with my emotions. I elaborated  how connecting with your child can make you a hero/role model.

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